When I declared that I was done, everything stopped. My spouse had a choice: he could choose to stay with the neighbors or accompany me, and together we could move away from them and go on with our life. My spouse was going through a difficult period with the neighbor's husband's death, and I did my best to support him. He decided that he didn't want to see him in that state on his deathbed for his mental health, and of course, it became my fault because I chose his actions for him, apparently. All of his decisions that she disagrees with are immediately placed at my fault. I wish I could control other's thoughts. Perhaps, in this case, it might be different.
Finally, one evening, both of the neighbors decided that it would be okay to physically put their hands on me, and that was the day that I was done. I was very proud of myself for not using my hands back. It is hard to be hit and shoved, and not to do anything back. This took every ounce of growth that I had as a person, but it was also a good thing because it was a stepping stone that I needed to be like, okay, we're moving out of this trailer we're getting our place, and you can either come with me or stay here, but I was done after that.
Here is where I try to use my experience to start assisting someone; in theory, the neighbors aren't hurting my kids. I never let them treat my kids the same way they did me.
They truly were well-treated, my kids genuinely cared for and loved them. However, there is a poisonous and bad side where healthy boundaries are crossed. I said nothing to my kids, but even though they were kind to them, their actions began to affect the kids, who noticed, and now they don't want to interact with them. Her entering my children's classroom and speaking to their teachers greatly infuriated my son. Likewise, seeing them hit their mother, was the deciding factor for the kids, and I had nothing to do with it. They decided they didn't want a relationship with them.
Here's the thing I want everyone to know, though: you have the right to end any relationship for the sake of your mental health, regardless of whether it's with your grandparents, aunt, or uncle. Your kids will indeed grow up without grandparents and be just fine. If they treat the children well, it makes no difference. If they're mistreating you. Are the parents of the children truly happy? Never fear what's best for your mental health by removing relationships from your children. You're worthy of that!
Similarly, when examining package offers, it is important to consider the affiliations of your significant other. Not only are you getting married to that individual, but you also have the people in the picture to ensure that they treat you well and won't have a negative impact on your mental health.
Moving away from my neighbors was my happily ever after. In the house we currently own, my husband finds it less awkward because my name is the only one on the deed. I assert that she is not permitted to visit a home I own! I will never allow her into my home someone who destroys my reputation and has mistreated me mentally on so many levels. Naturally, she is the one who is the victim after she physically, mentally, and emotionally mistreated me. I adore every comment, "I can't believe you cut her out of your life completely." I just wear a smile.
Just remember, when you're dealing with somebody who's abusing you, you don't have to stoop to their level and tell lies about them or spread rumors about them. All you have to do is tell the truth about what they did to you, and they will look like the horrible person they are. We as individuals should be judged by our actions. That's what I told myself all those years. One day she'll get hers when I finally find the courage to tell people about what she did to me.