Strictly speaking, this is Nan Zhubin's first official visitor.
Nan Zhubin wanted to try to see if he could use the most formal counseling method to turn the other party into a case.
The formal psychological consultation process is very rigorous, and a complete case goes through several complete stages, including [data collection], [psychological diagnosis], [psychological treatment], [summary], and so on.
And each stage requires several rounds of psychological consultation.
Only after the tasks of the current phase are completed will it advance to the next phase.
Until the visitor's problem is ultimately resolved, and the psychological consultation comes to an end.
Of course, this form is more like "psychological treatment" than "psychological consultation", but the distinction is quite blurred domestically.
The situation with Chen Ting that Nan Zhubin received yesterday was special, leading to some of his operations not being very compliant.
In fact, this isn't a problem, after all, a visitor's issues cannot present themselves to a consultant according to "norms", and sometimes a consultant has to be adaptable in their actual operation.
But as a professionally trained consultant, Nan Zhubin still feels more comfortable and at ease conducting a normative case.
However, whether a visitor can become a qualified case does not only depend on the quality of the consultant but also on whether the visitor cooperates.
...
Nan Zhubin thought.
"This is our Mr. Nan."
Here, Lu Jia led the young visitor to sit and briefly introduced Nan Zhubin to the visitor, then gently closed the door.
"Hello." Nan Zhubin flashed a standard professional smile.
"Hello." The visitor was very polite.
He first looked curiously up and down at Nan Zhubin, then began to examine the setup of the consultation room.
Nan Zhubin observed the visitor's posture and expression.
The other had his fingers interlocked across his lower abdomen, with his upper body leaning into the sofa, shoulders spread wide, and head slightly tilted back.
[A bit nervous, but only slightly. No negative emotions like panic, sadness, or depression; overall it's comfortable.]
[A feeling that is slightly nervous but overall very relaxed...]
With just a glance, Nan Zhubin had a general judgment in his heart.
"Nervous" is the common reaction of a young boy in unfamiliar environments at this age;
As for "relaxation," it seems because the other... doesn't feel he has any issues.
"Is this your first psychological consultation?" Nan Zhubin opened the conversation, pulling the other from observing his surroundings back to the conversation.
"Oh, yes."
"May I know your name?"
"I'm Ye Yi." He said his name distinctly, "The leaf of Ye, and Yi as in one, two, three, four."
"A very memorable name." Nan Zhubin gave him positive feedback, and then started his self-introduction in a similar manner, "I'm Nan Zhubin. Nan as in south, Zhu as in congratulations, and Ren as in benevolence."
"Hello, Mr. Nan."
Nan Zhubin smiled, "Very nice to meet you."
At this point, Nan Zhubin paused briefly.
Waited for three or four seconds.
Then he continued the dialogue: "Since we're here, there must be something you feel we need to discuss together, would you mind sharing it with me?"
"Oh." Ye Yi seemed to be reminded of something and chuckled lightly.
"It's like this, I'm eighteen this year, just graduated from high school." Ye Yi said, "It just seems that all of a sudden, I don't know what to do in the future. Regarding what school I should attend, what major to choose, and even what career to pursue, I'm always confused..."
Nan Zhubin understood and began drafting an outline for the upcoming consultation.
But there were two questions that needed to be confirmed first.
He then smoothly asked the first question: "So you wanted to have a psychological consultation to help you clarify your plan?"
"Yes." Ye Yi laughed heartily, "Mostly, I've always been very curious about psychological consultations and took this opportunity to experience it."
It was as if Nan Zhubin had caught the bug, he laughed too, "Great, you mentioned earlier the 'choices' concerning schools, majors, and careers, which choices are you facing now?"
Ye Yi listed them effortlessly:
"As for schools, mainly I've applied to several in the United States, such as..."
"I haven't decided on my major or career, because it seems like I don't have anything in particular I like. I engaged in quite a few volunteer activities, which I seemed to enjoy, including..."
The visitor's topic opened up all at once.
For the next ten minutes, Nan Zhubin completely turned into a listener.
Even though the folder in front of Nan Zhubin for taking notes was still open, he had already laid down his pen.
He judged: There are no issues of psychological significance with the visitor in front of him, nor could he potentially develop into his case.
Psychological consultations are like this, many times they are not dealing with the public's perception of [depression], [anxiety] and other psychological illnesses, but rather more life-oriented issues, such as [marital issues], [workplace stress] and so on.
And the issue of the visitor in front of him belongs to the "most life-oriented" category among all "life-oriented problems":
A young man from a well-off family, experiencing small problems that inevitably occur in the growth stage, thus took this opportunity to experience the somewhat mysterious psychological consultation to satisfy his curiosity.
Maybe this young man with thoughts is actually here for "investigation."
To see if he wants to follow the road of psychological consultation in the future.
"Mr. Nan, can you tell me how you usually conduct consultations?"
Ye Yi showed an expectant expression: "I've always been really curious."
You see.
Nan Zhubin smiled.
"As for me..." Nan Zhubin was thinking, he certainly wouldn't completely reveal everything to the visitor.
After all, this is a consultation, and he is a consultant.
But appropriate [self-exposure] is also a consulting technique.
"The reason I embarked on the path of psychological consultation is because..."
Ye Yi showed an attentive expression.
The atmosphere in the consultation room afterward was quite good; this was one of the few psychological consultations where the consultant could feel comfortable.
Psychological consultation is a rather mentally taxing job, and besides that, it requires withstanding prolonged exposure to negative emotions and even the assimilation of negative emotions.
Of course, it can't be said to be tough, as a consultant earns money for this job.
But if there could be a relaxed and enjoyable consultation, Nan Zhubin was more than happy to see it.
The time on the clock on the wall kept moving.
Some time later.
Nan Zhubin summarized: "That's basically the situation. If you don't have any other questions, today's consultation will end here."
Ye Yi suddenly lifted his head, realizing that time had unknowingly passed for forty minutes.
"That was fast." Ye Yi couldn't help but exclaim.
He only felt that the conversation was smooth and fulfilling; even though the person opposite was meeting him for the first time, they understood him more than anyone he had known before.